The world is better for having you in it.
—Steve, a reader writes in an email
“I still thought of transgender people as – I don’t know – weird,” Steve from out west in California admitted on Friday of his previous perception. “I don’t know any transgender people.”
Then Steve met a writer (me) who happened to be a trans woman revealing her struggles of growing up trans in a video testimony on YouTube.
“And it clicked. You are a woman,” Steve wrote to me. “It’s the person inside that is. The rest: the hair, the makeup, the clothes, is just window dressing.”
By opening himself up to the possibility of something new, something foreign, something different than what was right in front of him and what he was previously comfortable knowing, Steve grew. He shifted his consciousness and learned about another human being’s story – and he became a channel for light and love.
He didn’t only learn, Steve then took action: he went to his computer and read my story, read my blog and took it upon himself to write to me and send me love. Pure, pure love, love that only humans can express in this way by connecting. “The opposite of love is not hate,” a saying says, “the opposite of love is ignorance.”
“You are an amazing human being,” Steve wrote to me. “The world is better for having you in it.”
That, right there, brought me to tears. I wanted to share his beautiful letter in its entirety because it touched me way deep down. I went into the “ugly cry,” the one that no waterproof mascara could save you from.
Steve’s eloquent story of how my story touched him and helped him see things differently was validation that opening up to the world in this major way (despite the hurtful comments and ridicule from a handful of closed-off people) was what I am supposed to be doing.
It was validating, and this is my way of paying tribute to Steve’s eloquence.
STEVE’S LETTER, May 20th at 2:06PM (EST)
It’s Friday, 10:45am in Campbell, Ca and you have just changed a life.
Me: I’m 6’2″, black, raised in Texas (wait, wait!)…
Former Marine (no wait, keep reading.) You can imagine my views towards gays and bisexuals growing up.
However in 2001 I moved to London for what became a four year assignment.
I met Pakistani people. I met French people. I met gay people. I met crazy people. I met blindingly smart people.
In short, my whole world expanded and my world-view changed.
I changed. But, as you know, growth (real growth) takes time.
I still thought of transgendered people as, I don’t know, weird. I don’t know any transgendered people.
And then stumbled across your “it gets better” video where you relate your
story. And it clicked:
You are a woman. It’s the person inside that is. The rest: the hair, the makeup, the clothes.is just window dressing.
And then I read one of your blog entries. About signing your divorce papers and lease agreement on the same day. And then I read another. And another.
You are an amazing human being. The world is better for having you in it.
I hope to be able to have coffee with you or someone like you one day.